Set ground rules you can both agree on.
What changes do you think will be needed? What changes does your boyfriend want? Reach a happy compromise in relation to each other’s wants. What will stay the same without feeling awkward or uncomfortable? Will you continue to talk to one another face-to-face? Will you use social media to stay in touch? Will you take a complete break from communicating with each other? Will you set times to catch up and review how things are going? You need to face these questions now, and not just wander off blindly in the hope that things will resolve themselves as the break takes place. Things unsaid have a way of turning into confirmation that whatever you or he wants goes.
Create an activity list. This will give you an opportunity to look forward to each new day that approaches, instead of pacing and worrying about if he will call. It is important to learn that your life should never revolve around one single person. That only sets you up to be devastated if they end up wanting a break up.
When you stay in alignment with what makes you happy and gives you meaning, it can support you to stay in alignment with your best life (including your best love life). [7] X Research source
Create a balance between the process of healing, self-care, and grieving and also try out new, small, or big life experiences. [9] X Research source
Selecting family members and friends you trust and feel safe to be vulnerable with is vital to your healing, renewing, and rebuilding. [10] X Research source
Be careful of feelings of loyalty. While it’s noble to be loyal, this isn’t the reason for staying with someone when the fire has died out. You can transfer the loyalty to a friendship. Be aware of his feelings but be careful not to let these take over your own feelings. For example, he is really sad and disappointed that you’ve decided not to resume the relationship, avoid feeling obliged to resume it just because of his sadness. It will pass.
